And me? I have no idea what to wear. While I do have the dress I wore to prom and Presser Formal (flashback!) ---it is beautiful but uncomfortable to sit in, given the structured boning and drop waist. It's much more of a stand-up-and-talk dress. I made the mistake of wearing it to the six hour performance of Wagner's Götterdämmergung, and the discomfort was intense.
(the very gallant prom date and I)
Something to keep in mind is that this isn't an awards show, it isn't a costumer's ball, I'm not going onstage....which means if any single person would look at me funny, it reflects badly on my mom, which I would never want. Basically, it's not high school, where I wore formals over jeans just for fun. I'm going for class, elegance, and something that will make me feel beautiful. Which also means no conventional prom dresses (ew, neon) or mother-of-the-bride dresses (I am 25, not 55). I want a dress that I would see Natalie Portman or Rachel McAdams would wear. Well, I dress I would see them wear, but one that doesn't cost ten thousand dollars, of course. I've thought about the dress rental sites, as well as Etsy/Ebay, but it just does not sit well with me to spend money on something I am not able to try on. I buy tshirts online, and shoes that I wear with socks, which give me wiggle room. A $300 ballgown has very little room for error, and while I do have the money to spend that much on a gown, I don't have money to spend that much on a gown that ends up not working at all. But--both Etsy and Ebay have given me some ideas on what I would want to wear:
I've also been looking for a replacement for this dress, a homemade dress I found at my favorite consignment shop in the Twin Cities during high school - it was just so loved that it fell apart. I've been looking for another bronzey-metallic dress ever since, to no avail.
Gosh, I miss this dress.
So, what to do? Visit every thrift and consignment store between here and New Hampshire, I think. The wealthier suburbs might yield some gorgeous dresses, you never know. I guess my worst nightmare is having to wear a David's Bridal bridesmaid dress, so as long as it doesn't come down to that, I'm fine. But it means I need to get going and find one, that's for sure.